Posted by: Shalini Verma | February 24, 2008

I like the house quiet,she loves the noise : The story of W and B

“My wife of 2 years and I have a running argument. When we are home together on the weekends, I like the house to be quiet, especially if I am working on a project where I need to concentrate.

She, on the other hand, likes noise. As soon as he gets out of bed, she turns the TV or the stereo on. She won’t even be watching the TV. She could be out in the garden /talking to the neighbour….. but she leaves the TV on in the house. When she turns the stereo on,we end up rattling because we have entirely different tastes.

How can we resolve this? I know it’s not as serious a problem as you may sometimes get, but I think our inability to resolve this is a sign of something worse going on in our relationship.

If we can’t resolve a little thing like this, what will we do when we are faced with a big problem? What suggestions do you have for us?”
   ~W and B

Is This Your Story Too ?

Partnerships are in many ways like real, seagoing ships. Just like a sailing vessel needs regular, constant care and upkeep, your partnerships need regular care and upkeep.

The crew of a sailing ship is knowledgeable in the standard practices of seamanship, which is absolutely required to maintain a ship’s seaworthiness. Unfortunately, most people are not knowledgeable in the standard practices of maintaining their partner-ships.

Yet, most people in partnerships of any kind are usually focused on the goals of the partnership, whether building a life or a business or a community center. There is very little attention paid to the partner-ship itself.

And often, somewhere along the voyage of life, the partner-ship is unable to withstand the inevitable and predictable storms of life that can damage both the partners and the partner-ship.

 So remember a few points here:

Make choices grounded in love rather than fear

Mutually agree upon strategies for dealing with predictable breakdowns, i.e., miscommunications, upsets or disagreements, and use them when needed

Commit to win/win outcomes

Communicate honestly from the heart and practice high-performance listening

Share power rather than struggle for it.

Assume personal responsibility for your emotional reality and refrain from blame

Nurture a conscious relationship with your Soul.

Some practical solutions I would put up for consideration in this case would be:

Consider buying a set of cordless headphones.

Set time frames for the times when the house needs to be quiet and when putting on loud music is o.k

Whatever you two decide but try to make it doing it `our way` rather than `my way` and try to make it a win-win solution for both.

Cheers !

Posted by: Shalini Verma | February 19, 2008

DON`T QUIT : catch this awesome video

Posted by: Shalini Verma | February 19, 2008


“The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, the education, the money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company… a church… a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past… we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you… we are in charge of our Attitudes.”

Charles R. Swindoll

Posted by: Shalini Verma | February 19, 2008

Meditation Techniques

If one explores the world of meditation, one  will find that there are many meditation techniques. Besides the classical techniques, almost every meditation teacher invents some of his own. ( In fact the multiplicity of meditation techniques and methods causes some confusion for people who are new to the subject. They do not know where to start and which method to follow.)

There are many meditation techniques and methods to choose from. Everyone extols the method he or she follows. They do so, because this is what they know and have been practicing. One’s method may not necessarily be appropriate for someone else. That’s why there are so many techniques.

Most people, especially in the West, associate meditation with relaxation of the body and mind. Actually, many who arrive to meditation, do so because of their need to find some relaxation in a world full of tension.

There are various Indian meditation techniques, Buddhist meditations, Zen meditations and other Eastern or Western techniques. Even guided imagination and creative visualization are a certain type of meditation.

Sometimes, people come across a method and start practicing it. Sometimes they like it and go on with it. At others times they are not satisfied, and either search some other technique or stop altogether.

The question is not what technique or method to choose. The crucial question is what do you expect to attain or gain, and does the method you choose lead you to your aim. Are you just after physical relaxation, a little inner peace, or do you want to gain real peace of mind? Maybe your aim is the attainment of enlightenment.

Some examples of the techniques are:

 There are techniques that instruct you to concentrate on the tip of your nose, on your breathing or on your movements.

Others tell you to think on a sentence, quote or prayer, while other methods tell you to repeat a mantra.

You can sit by the sea and watch the waves,

 follow a cloud in the sky or

concentrate on a certain subject and try to understand it.

 You can repeat a prayer or think about god. 

 The main theme of all of them is the act of focusing the mind on one single subject, in other words concentration.

The mind is usually restless. By subduing its waves, it becomes quiet. When the mind is quiet the body is quiet too. Meditation is not different from any other method of training. To succeed, you need perseverance, inner strength, ambition and faith. To gain results, you need to devote, time, energy and love.

Posted by: Shalini Verma | February 19, 2008


Meditation is a collective name for various mental/spiritual techniques for relaxing the restlessness of the mind and freeing it from anxiety and stress. In its higher forms, it aims for spiritual growth and the attaining peace of mind and spiritual awakening.

Meditation is a state of concentrated attention on a thought, idea, an aspect of God or on one’s awareness, and usually involves turning the attention inwards, away from the external world. For a certain amount of time, one tries to focus the mind on the subject of meditation, and when it wanders away, bring it back again and again.

In it higher forms, meditation aims to free the mind from the subconscious compulsive habit to think incessantly. This leads to inner peace, freedom and awareness of the inner Spirit, which is above and beyond the mind.

Meditation is practiced in both the East and the West in its various forms. You don’t need to be a monk or a hermit or live in seclusion to practice it. In fact, you can continue living your life, keeping your job, having a wife and kids and still practice meditation. You don’t need to follow any particular religion, wear certain clothes or lead a certain lifestyle. Meditation is an inner practice, which can be practiced anywhere, and has nothing to do with any external mannerisms.

Posted by: Shalini Verma | February 18, 2008

Heal Yourself With REIKI

Trees have roots. Leaves grow, and during autumn, they change color and fall to the ground.Events from your childhood to now have given you emotional roots that have piled up, affecting your ability to maintain a sense of well-being. To clear some of the emotional stress, try Reiki (pronounced ray-key), a Japanese technique used to promote healing, reduce stress and increase relaxation.

Reiki practitioners use a technique in which they channel healing energy through their hands (a non-touching technique). A state of deep relaxation, combined with a general feeling of well-being is the immediate effect of the treatment. Emotional releases can also occur.

One of the greatest Reiki healing health benefits is stress reduction, which triggers the body’s natural healing abilities, and improves and maintains health. Reiki is a natural therapy that gently balances life energies.

Reiki practitioners also add the following benefits from Reiki:

*Aids in better sleep
*Reduces blood pressure
*Can help with injuries and chronic problems (asthma, eczema, headaches, addiction)
*Helps relieve pain
*Assists the body in cleaning itself from toxins
*Supports the immune system
*Increases vitality

“Reiki heals the body/mind/spirit by improving oneself. Reiki is spiritual in nature and will work whether you believe in it or not. It heals by flowing through the affected parts of the energy field and charging them with positive energy. It raises the vibratory level of the energy field in and around the physical body where the negative thoughts and feelings are attached. This causes the negative energy to break apart and fall away.”

Many Reiki teachers abide by these five principles: Just for today:
                                                                     Do not be angry
                                                                     Do not be worried
                                                                     Be grateful
                                                                     Work hard (on improving yourself)
                                                                     Be kind to others.

When raking fall leaves, it’s important to remove the layer of dead turfgrass tissue between the green vegetation and the soil surface so that your lawn can stay healthy.

Rake away your negative energy and receive Reiki to clear energy blocks and start the season fresh.

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